Pros and cons to online dating
The report by Finkel’s team, a meta-analysis of hundreds of studies related to online dating and relevant human behavior, says that in just one month last year, there were 25 million people using online dating sites.
This is especially good, the authors say, for those who might otherwise have a hard time meeting people — single parents, workaholics, those who are new in town, recently divorced or not heterosexual.
Browsing through profile after profile “can result in the objectification of potential partners,” the study says.
And the average online dater spends 12 hours a week at the endeavor.
As people became more self-reliant and transient, they turned to singles ads and dating services.
You can find out just about anything you want to know these days by using a combination of online profiles, Google searches and social media. Possibly, but no more so than what we used to do — ask friends and co-workers what they knew about this person before going too far and agreeing to a date.
“You get people online who think they know what they want in a partner, but that’s not going to dovetail with what actually inspires their attraction when they meet a flesh-and-blood person,” Finkel says.
Monika Lupean, a 54-year-old yoga instructor from Maryland, has experienced that problem repeatedly in her four years of online dating.
Potential dates used to be a real crap-shoot and chances weren't always good that you would roll a winner.
Having a guaranteed variety of choices is a wonderful change from the old days of dating when it used to be hard just to meet people in general let alone to meet potential partners.3. With the Internet and all of the information it can provide, those so-called "first date jitters" will be no more.