My crush is dating an ugly girl
Good looking, for me, does not necessarily equate to sexy.
Take David Beckham, for instance: The squeaky voice, the dull-as-ditchwater personality, that sarong... Give me a crooked nose, a lanky body and a gap between the teeth any day.
Slowly, I caught on that I knew about dating and women was wrong. You love computers, baseball cards, classical music, anime?
A few years later, right about when I was a pre-med advisor to Harvard undergraduates, I noticed that my friends and advisees were in a similar pickle.
It was the only time in my life that I got depressed: poor sleep, suppressed appetite, Kafka. The next kiss didn't come for another 4 years, when I was in medical school. Turns out that the skill set required to navigate the tricky waters of romantic interaction wasn't in any book I had read or any class I had taken. As guys, a lot of what we did in physics and math class was to try to straighten crooked stuff out.
She was also 19, with an irresistible English accent and very cute to boot. Except that she dumped me, pulverizing my heart into nanoparticles.
But unfortunately, when I say good looking doesn't necessarily equate to sexy, that's not to say it can't equate to sexy.
It's not that I go out of my way to seek out ugly men.So this goes out to all my boys out there at places like Harvard, Princeton, Yale, Stanford, MIT, Columbia, Duke, Swarthmore, Penn, Cornell, Berkeley, Brown, Dartmouth, Oxford, and Cambridge. To all you who work at the likes of Google, Amazon, Microsoft, D. Shaw, Mc Kinsey -- all the geeks, nerds, grad students, techies, hackers, engineers and gadgeteers. So don't come and tell me that women don't make sense to you. So you're increasing the likelihood of getting - nothing. Quit thinking girls should like you because you're smart. " In neurological terms, you want to give a positive reinforcer - like a present - the desirable behavior, you reinforce nothing.